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How to find peace of mind in a raging world of suffering, anxiety, worry, constant problems etc.? How to maintain Christian peace of mind in situations when people irritate us or various situations infuriate us?

Often we feel tired and then we understand what Christ’s words mean: “Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest” (). He who is young cannot feel this fully: he has no burden, but a mature man himself has gone through many dangers, sorrows, difficulties, failures, powerlessness, and the years add fatigue and burdens to him, and he wants to rest, to put it where Somehow this burden, free yourself from it.

Who can truly give relief is Christ. Nobody else. Everything else that we do is human, it can only help us to some extent, for example: we can go on a trip, go to the village to good friend, some other nice place. This also helps and calms us, but not deeply. Only Christ can truly give peace to a person’s soul, because He Himself is the Peace of our souls.

As we say at the Holy Liturgy, “we surrender ourselves, and each other, and our whole life to Christ our God.” Let us surrender to Christ all the heaviness of our “I” and the “I” of the people around us, our worries, anxieties, torments, fears, sorrows, pain, complaints - let us unload all this into the hands of God and surrender ourselves to Christ our God.

As Elder Paisios said more than once, we are like a man holding a bag full of junk on his back. And God comes and snatches it from our hands so that we do not carry this bag full of all sorts of obscenities, garbage and uncleanness, but we do not let it go. We want to keep it with us and carry it with us everywhere we go. But then God comes and snatches it away:

Yes, leave him, let him out, throw away this bag full of all sorts of things! Throw it away, don't carry it around. Well, why did you grab onto him? Why do you need him? So that you continue to be tormented and suffer in vain?

But we - no, we won’t let him out for anything! Like stubborn children clutching something tightly and not wanting to give it up.

A young man once came to Holy Mount Athos to become a monk, but he was tormented by some difficulties. And one day, when he was in the temple, the elder looked at his face and said:

Look at this one young man: he does not allow a single thought to escape from him!

That is, he does not allow any thought to run away from him and he would remain for 5 minutes without thoughts.

His mind is like a mill, constantly grinding something. He puts material into it, puts stones, and it produces dust and sand.

He called him over and said:

Come here! Well, why are you sitting there like a television antenna, receiving all the waves sent from the transmitter! Leave at least some, let him run! Your mind is like a mill that is constantly turning. Watch what you put into your mind! Naturally, if you put in stones, dust and sand will come out and dust will rise in a column. So invest good material into your mind. Put in good, good thoughts, good concepts, put in prayer, because this is how you only torment yourself. After all, everything that you endlessly grind falls on you, and not on anyone, and you wear yourself out in vain.

A person must learn to take care of himself so that there is no disorder in his mind that has no end and which destroys us: after all, our mind can destroy us and create many problems for us. Therefore, we must turn to God through prayer, confession, humility, and leave everything that occupies us in the hands of God, and find peace. And you will find rest for your souls.

Christ came into the world to comfort us, and not to confuse us, to confuse us. Give us peace, rest, because He knows that we are tired, and the more time passes, the more tired we become. This is a great art, and the Church owns it.

I once spoke with a psychologist, and he asked me:

How many people do you see per day?

I answered him:

Now that I’m older, I can’t stand much: 50–60, up to 70 a day. And when I lived in the Mahera monastery and was younger, sometimes there would be 150: I started at 4 in the morning and finished at 7-8 in the evening or later.

He told me:

What you are doing to yourself is not good, it is very cruel. We cannot accept more than ten people a day. As psychologists who accept people, we accept ten at most; we cannot stand more.

Yes, but only we have one advantage - as soon as we leave the confessional, everything disappears. This is an amazing phenomenon. After all, we hear so many things! Just think what the confessor hears. Nothing nice, and above all, no one tells us nice things. It's like seeing a doctor. Is there anyone who goes to the doctor who would say to him:

Doctor, I came for you to look at me, otherwise I’m too healthy!

No. Just illness, wounds, blood, pain. And we will not go to our confessor to tell him our virtues, achievements, joyful events in life, but only the bad, sorrowful, indecent things, only failures. But you are a human being, how long can you endlessly listen to nothing but bad things and sins?

One day a child asked me:

Sir, has anyone come to you to tell you that they have committed murder?

I told him:

And you weren't dumbfounded?

I wasn't dumbfounded.

He looked at me in surprise:

But seriously?

Yes, I'm serious.

And if he were alone... Many people today are burdened, and there are so many problems in the world. But we don’t keep all this in ourselves, and therefore our stomach and heart do not suffer, we do not fall under the weight of human pain, but we transfer all this to Christ, because Christ is the Lamb of God, who takes away and bears the sin of the world, and our sin too . Christ is the One who is really present there and takes on all this burden. But we don’t do anything, we are just ministers, we perform our service, and there is Christ, who accepts every person.

I tell you this not only from my experience as a person who confesses, that is, a believer who confesses once every 2-3 months, but also as a person who has been confessing people for more than 35 years, who has confessed thousands of people. And I tell you that this is a sacrament that we perform 50 times a day, and often daily, to the point of complete exhaustion, but I am absolutely convinced that Christ is present there. We see it all the time: He receives people, He listens to people, He responds to people, He heals a person, and we are spectators of all this.

Like a cashier in a bank, through whose hands millions of rubles pass per day, but they are not his. He takes them, writes them down, sends them to his boss - he just does the job. It's the same with the confessor. He is a witness, he testifies to God's presence there, he is an instrument that God uses. But Christ performs the great sacrament of healing a person, answers what a person asks, and performs the mystery of saving a person.

This is the most great experience, which only a person can have. I often say this when I ordain priests, that from now on you will see how God works with your hands. God will be a daily reality for you. It is a miracle, an everyday miracle, repeated hundreds of times a day, when all these interventions of God happen (as the fathers say) without you doing anything. You are simply fulfilling the external part of this connection between man and God, but in reality Christ, who takes away the sin of the world, takes on the load - ours and the whole world.

But in order to feel this, you must first understand that Christ takes away our sins - confessors, priests, bishops, and if He takes my sins, then He takes the sins of all people. And I cannot be indignant or doubt that He will bear the sins of my brother. Because ours personal experience- this is a huge proof that Christ came into the world to save sinners, as the holy Apostle Paul says, of whom I am the first ().

If Christ endures and saves me, if He did not reject me and put me out of sight, then I can tolerate any person, because, without any doubt, my brother is better than me. Whatever he did. Because, without any doubt, there is no one below me. This is how a person should feel that “there is no one lower than me.”

Although it seems to us that it is difficult, it actually makes it very easy, because what more people humbles himself before God, the more he recognizes that God is his Savior, and thanks Him for saving him, for becoming Man for our sake, for putting up with us. And when I say “endures,” I mean myself, and not others, myself, each of us individually.

So, when I feel this, the more I feel it, the easier it becomes for me, and the more I cry and sob about my wretchedness and wretchedness, the more consolation I feel. This is the secret of the Church. You find joy not in worldly joy, but in pain. Where pain is visible, where sorrow is visible, where the cross is visible, where fatigue is visible, there is consolation. There, on the Cross, there is joy. As we say, “for behold, joy has come to the whole world through the Cross.”

In sorrow, in repentance, in the feat of repentance with humility, a person receives rest. This is something paradoxical. In the Church, the more a person cries, the more he rejoices. The more he learns the art of tears, crying in prayer, the more he rests and purifies. Tears in spiritual space are the key that reveals to us the secrets of God, the secrets of God's grace. And the more he cries, the more he rejoices, has fun, is consoled, purified and receives rest.

Our hope and faith are in Christ, He is our rest. Without Him we do not rest. No one can give us a rest. And what we think gives us rest tires us beyond belief. A person thinks that if he is rich, he will feel good. However, wealth is a merciless, merciless, cruel tyrant; there is no joy in it. It is a burden that, like a shadow, constantly haunts you.

A person may think that worldly fame gives relief when you have great fame, name, power in the world. But nothing like that, absolutely nothing: all this is fatigue, burden, deception, tormenting us unimaginably. None of this can bring relief to a person; he receives relief only near God, only in that which is true, genuine, only in that which conquers death. Everything else is doomed to death, and this tires us unimaginably, because first of all it brings us uncertainty.

What can help me? Can I count on my health? How's your health? After all, I don’t even know what will happen to me in the next minute. And, thank God, today we have so many diseases awaiting us. There are so many dangers, difficulties, misfortunes, fears. So who can give me certainty? Certainty is the false feeling that these worldly things give you.

As it is said in the Gospel about the last times that fear will reign on earth, today fear and uncertainty are a huge phenomenon. If you talk to someone about illness, he will immediately tell you: “Knock on wood so that we stay healthy!” Knock on wood. Yes, knock on anything: even on wood, even on a board, even on iron, even on a wall, whatever you want, but when the time comes to knock on your door of illness, then we will see what you will knock on. No matter what you knock on, you won't succeed.

We hide reality, it terrifies us. All this, in essence, torments us, while Christ really is the Quiet Light. He is God's Light, enlightening man, calming him, reassuring him, giving him a feeling of the eternal Kingdom of God. When a person has a feeling of the eternal Kingdom, what can terrify him, what can upset his mood? Nothing scares him, not even death itself - for the man of God, all this takes on a different dimension.

Of course, we are people, and humanity functions in us, but, as the Holy Apostle Paul says, we have hope in Christ. It is one thing to suffer without any hope, but another to have hope in Christ. This is a powerful foundation on which you stand, and it is difficult to shake you. This foundation is Christ, our Savior, towards whom we have boldness, because we feel Him as our own: “My Christ,” the saints said. And Christ, the Savior of the whole world, leads us to God. Having become Man, He led the whole world to God the Father.

Having faith in God, in Christ, we become unshakable. We do not hesitate, do not budge when we are overwhelmed by waves of temptation, lack of faith, difficulties, when difficult times come. After all, God allows even great saints to find themselves in very difficult situations; there are unimaginably difficult moments when God seems to leave people and is silent, and you feel that you are alone. And not only this, but all evil falls upon you at once, and one evil comes after another, one temptation comes after another, one failure after another, and you no longer see God anywhere. You don’t feel Him, as if He abandoned you. But we remain convinced that God is present.

As Elder Joseph the Hesychast said to himself when these thoughts were choking him: “Everything you say is good. There is a lot of logical confirmation and evidence that all this is as you say. But where is God here? Where is God? Will He leave us in this situation? Is it possible for God to leave us? God never leaves us. And if we fry in life’s temptations, then God is also there, with us.

And then, when these sorrows pass, we will see that the most spiritually fruitful period of our lives, when Christ was really with us, was precisely the period of many sorrows. There, among many sorrows, God's grace is hidden, and not among joys.

Among joys it is also good. And here we also thank God. But who doesn’t say in the midst of joy: “Glory to God”? Isn’t it true that when we experience joy, we say: “Glory to God! We are fine!" However, can we say: “Thank God, everything is bad with us! Thank God we are sick! Thank God we are dying! Thank God, everything is falling apart around me. But still – thank God”? Like Saint John, who always said and ended his life with the words: “Glory to God for everything!”

It is a great thing to praise God for everything: for the joyful and for the sorrowful, for the easy and for the difficult, for successes and for failures. But most of all for sorrow. Sorrows make us mature, and when everything is fine with us, we forget - such is our nature - we forget God, our neighbors, our brothers and all the people suffering around us...

Metropolitan Athanasius of Limassol

Translated from Bulgarian by Stanka Kosova

Faculty of Theology, University of Veliko Tarnovo

Many people ask themselves the question: “How to get peace of mind and calmness, which will allow you to harmoniously interact with the world around you, while maintaining balance at all levels (mental, emotional and physical) of your Personality during this interaction”?

Having incarnated, having passed through the veil of oblivion and being in the process of life under the influence of many energies of catalysts, remembering your true self and finding inner balance is not an easy task and this is the challenge that faces everyone.

The peak of this is accessible to everyone, and all its facets are already within us. Everyone installs and configures their system within a comfortable range and boundaries.

A person’s internal balance cannot be achieved by outside influence, it must originate within, no matter how it happens, with or without awareness, but the essence will come from within. The external party can only help with direction, but not with self-organization.
Moreover, accidents and “forays” into self-development are not helpful here. To achieve internal goals, you need to treat yourself carefully and work systematically.

Finding peace of mind and harmony with ourselves is the level of our state that is available at every moment of our reality HERE and NOW.

The nature of these things is not at all passive, but on the contrary, it is very dynamic and is realized by many other factors. All this is organized by a combination of: mental activity, energy, body, emotional part. Any of these factors has a serious impact on the others, organizing into a single whole being - a person.

Each of us faces a challenge and it is accepted by each of us, manifested in our free choice.

Human internal balance- This necessary conditions for life in our World. And if we ourselves do not form it, it will be formed without our conscious participation and brought into a certain low-frequency range allowing us to manipulate, control, and take energy.

That is why our question is directly related to the real freedom and energy independence of everyone.

Modes of formation of mental balance and harmony

Achievement is possible in two modes:

First mode

A conscious, Personally controlled process of building, adjusting and tuning all components of internal harmony. In this case, the individual balance built in the process of work is stable, positive, energy-filled and optimal.

Second mode

Unconscious, chaotic, when a person lives, unconsciously obeying and following automatic switching on chains of thoughts, emotions and actions. In this case, our nature is built in the low-frequency controlled range and is realized as destructive and destructive for humans.

Over time, having built a positive worldview that works for us, we can create our own ways to integrate and install internal balancing at any moment, even the most critical.

Factors influencing the formation of mental balance

1. Speed ​​of stay

The desire to speed up the course of events in life, intolerance and a negative reaction in the form of irritation due to the speed at which events unfold, and rejection of what is happening contribute to the emergence of an imbalance.

Staying in the moment, accepting the flow of circumstances that we cannot influence, only contributes to the best solution questions. Our reactions to external events are key and determining for its preservation. Only we ourselves choose how to react to emerging situations and events.

All external catalysts are initially neutral in nature, and only we decide what they will be and reveal their potential.
Giving time means concentrating on every action, no matter what you are doing, fastening buttons, preparing food, washing dishes, or anything else.

Step by step, we should go through our path, pay our attention only to the present, and not speed up movements that move at their proper speed. Let a small matter into your world, give yourself completely to it, you should not constantly indulge in what worries you, you need to learn to distract your mind.

Such simple actions are aimed at pumping up awareness, but a stone wears away water and what you achieve will amaze you. It is the little things with which we begin the journey that make our consciousness more plastic and weaken all the tension that has been accumulating in us for years, pushing us into the unreal world. We don't dream about how it should be, we move towards it on our own. One day, just wash the dishes with obvious interest, think only about them, take your time, let the thought process do everything for you. Such simple logic reveals the familiar from a completely different angle. Moreover, the world itself becomes more understandable to those who are attentive and thinking, and already at this stage some of the fears recede.

We can’t control everything in life - this means that it doesn’t really make sense to fight, that’s the reality. And it often happens that any other influence we have will only bring harm to the situation and will mean that we are not yet ready to consciously find peace of mind and harmony in ourselves.

2. Moderation

Avoiding the oversaturation of the environment with excesses, the ability not to divide the world into black and white, the ability to clearly understand the level own strength, do not waste time - all this makes it possible to accumulate the necessary potential of our energy for its further use in creating a positive internal balance (equilibrium).

3. Mindset

Thoughts are an energetic substance within us. To establish harmony, it is necessary to distinguish and monitor them. But not every thought that we catch inside ourselves belongs to us. We ourselves must choose what to believe. It is necessary to consciously distinguish between the thoughts that come to us.

Our motives are mirrored in the world around us; a negative state of thoughts will spread to our perception of the world as a whole. By training ourselves to track thoughts and making conscious choices, we take responsibility for our lives, achieve peace of mind and harmony with ourselves.

Tracking thoughts involves not reacting to emerging images reflexively, automatically. Pause, feel what feelings and emotions this thought evokes, and make a choice whether you like it or not.

An unconscious, quick automatic emotional reaction to emerging negative thoughts triggers the process of production and release of negative low-frequency energy, which reduces the frequency level of energy bodies and, as a result, lowers them into low ranges.
The ability to distinguish, monitor, and choose a way of thinking makes it possible and creates the conditions for creating or restoring personal peace of mind and tranquility.

4. Emotions

Human emotions are an evaluative attitude of the Personality and a response to the influence of external life catalysts.
With a conscious attitude, our sensory sphere, our emotions, are a Divine Gift and creative Power, uniting with the Highest aspect of the SuperSoul, an inexhaustible source strength.

With an unconscious attitude and automatic emotional reactions to external catalysts, the cause of suffering, pain, imbalance.

If thoughts, figuratively speaking, are the “trigger” for the start of energy processes, then emotions are those driving forces, which give acceleration (acceleration) to these processes. It all depends on the direction of the vector’s attention and on how consciously or unconsciously the immersion in this accelerating flow occurs. Everyone chooses how to use this Power for creativity, creation, strengthening the connection with their Oversoul, or for destructive explosive releases.

5. Physical body

The body is just an extension of our thinking.
At the level of the physical body, an energy circuit is closed that connects thoughts - body, emotions - body, harmonious system - release of energy.

The use of specific mental images with the addition of an emotional cocktail is followed by an influx of individual-type neurotransmitters into the body, which determine what specific physical and moral sensation we will experience

• Positive emotions cause relaxation and calm, allow our body and all its parts not to burn through energy and work in the correct mode.
• Negative emotions, on the contrary, cause local disruptions, which can manifest themselves as spasms of smooth muscles and deformations of tissue membranes, spasms and compressions, have an accumulating effect, and therefore lead to long-term negative processes throughout the body

The human hormonal system responds to emotional condition, which means it has a direct impact on the state of the body at the moment, with reverse side, with an increase in the level of certain hormones, emotionality also increases.

As a result, we are able to learn to control emotions by controlling, to some extent, the hormonal level of the body, and this will give us the opportunity to easily overcome some negative emotions, we will gain control over them. This skill will largely determine our potential for dodging many painful conditions, and subsequently our life expectancy.

7 tips for finding mental balance and harmony

1. Avoid strict planning

When plans are created to outline goals for development, implementation of maneuvers, achievements and results - then everything is in order. But when we control every minute of our living space, we demoralize ourselves by falling behind. We always need to run somewhere and have time to do everything. In this mode, we limit ourselves to everyday aspects and miss special opportunities to solve situations. One must be more flexible and open to the possibility of maneuvering through events without emotional suffering.

It is difficult to see every little detail of possible events in the future, but if we are capable of adjustments in the moment, nothing unsettles us, and we confidently swim in the mainstream of life, deftly controlling our “oar”, returning to the desired balance in time.

2. Symbols are not random

Nothing happens by chance. If we know how to see, distinguish and believe the signs that are sent to us from higher plans, then we will be able to manage our balance and avoid many troubles. By training to see and feel signs, you can promptly avoid negative impacts and following the optimal frequency range of settings, adjust your presence in the flow of energies, gaining peace of mind and tranquility in life.

3. Practice Faith in God and Serving a Higher Power

We must have a sacred place, both in the literal (physical) and figurative sense (aspiration and faith), this allows us to maintain “purity”, “confidence” and “shape” the right goals. Trust! Trust in divine providence, the flow, the supreme power, and also in Yourself as the Creator is the key to following the flow, the key to a successful, calm, fulfilling, fulfilled life. Do not take the “steering wheel” out of the hands of the Supreme Providence, let me help you in the present.

4. Forget the problem for a while and trust the Universe to solve it

Often we cannot stop our thinking mind because we are bothered by a large number of problems. One of good technicians- learn to “forget” the request. If you have a problem, you formulate it and then “forget”. And at this time your vision independently finds a solution to the problem, and after some time you will be able to “remember” your request along with its solution.

Learn to listen to your heart, to your inner voice, instinct, to your supernatural intuition, which tells you - “I don’t know why I need this - but I’m going there now,” “I don’t know why I have to leave - but it’s time for us to leave.” ", "I don't know why I should go there - but for some reason I have to go."

In a state of flow of balance, we know how to act even if we do not fully know or understand the situation logically. Learn to listen to yourself. Allow yourself to be inconsistent, situational and flexible. Trust the flow, even when it's difficult. If there are difficulties in your life, and you are sure that you listened to yourself, your intuition, and did the best you could in the current situation, do not rush to blame the flow, ask yourself what this situation teaches you.

What is flow teaching me through this situation? If there is no answer to this question, just let it go. Trust. Perhaps it will be revealed later - and you will find out “what it was all about.” But even if he doesn’t reveal himself, trust him anyway. Once again, trust is the key!

5. Be smart with your time

Don't go into the past - the past has already happened. Don’t live in the future - it has not come, and may not come, or it may come in a completely different way (the most unexpected). All we have is currently! Concentrate on every moment of your existence when the flow of time is at your level.

Skill be manifests itself in a conscious attitude towards consciousness slows down, and in this moment you can feel the taste and fullness of your whole life in every seemingly performed simple action. Feel the taste of it in the taste of food, in the aromas of flowers, in the blue of the sky, in the rustle of leaves, in the murmur of a stream, in the flight of an autumn leaf.

Every moment is unique and unrepeatable, remember it, absorb into yourself these feelings that you experienced in this unique moment of Eternity. Your feelings, your perception are unique in the entire Universe. Everything that everyone has collected in himself constitutes his gifts of Eternity and his immortality.

Balance is nothing more than the desire to live in this world at the speed at which it actually goes, that is, simply not to rush it. Feeling irritated and having a real opportunity to influence the speed of events are completely different things.

And if something really depends on you, then it can always be done calmly. And most often, the real symptoms of irritation are nervous gestures, rage, accusatory speeches that we utter to ourselves, a nagging feeling of “Well, why me?” - appear only at the moment when it is already crystal clear that we are absolutely powerless and cannot influence the process in any way.

The only thing we can do is be in one moment, without getting irritated or speeding up, to enjoy, to be grateful for it. And it is precisely with this choice and attitude that in this moment our unique and optimal mental balance and harmony with ourselves is maintained.

6. Creativity

At a level beyond our linear 3rd dimensional thinking, creativity is the unfolding of the highest divine potentials of the One Infinite Creator on a personal level. Unlocking your creative potential fills you with positive energy, allows you to achieve maximum balance, increases the frequencies of the energy sphere, and strengthens your personal connection with your SuperSoul.

By practicing something you love, especially if it involves doing some fine motor work with your hands, you enter a state where your mind automatically calms down. Right today, right now - find moments to do what you love to do. This could be cooking, making souvenirs, painting pictures, writing prose and poems, walking in nature, repairing a car, listening to your favorite music and much more that brings you joy personally.

Don't ask yourself - why? Drop rational, “right” questions. Your task is to feel with your heart, to feel the flow of circumstances, and the easiest way to do this is by doing what you like. If you like to cook, cook, if you like to walk, take a walk, try to find in everyday life something that “turns you on” to the “alive/alive” state.

7. Accept from people and life what it currently gives you with Love and Gratitude, both materially and emotionally.

Do not demand more or better, do not try to aggressively influence, offend or “teach” another.
Finally, find and experiment with what helps calm YOUR thinking mind. What exactly allows you to relax and get into a space without thoughts? Which method works best for you? Find these ways and do the most important thing - Practice.

Our optimally balanced personal balance is connected to the Divine Life Energy Flow. Therefore, in order to be in this Flow, we need to assemble ourselves in such a way that our frequencies are tuned to this Flow. Feel this Flow at the level of the heart, feelings, thoughts, remember these frequency settings, integrate these frequency settings into your energy sphere and make them your integral part.

To be here and now in one moment of Eternity on the frequency of Love in the Infinity of the One Infinite Creator!

16.03.2013

For a long time I did not ask myself this question, but now it takes up a considerable part of my time. I want to discuss this topic openly. The basis of any achievement is inner harmony. You need to have something to rely on. At any moment a person can deviate from the chosen path if he does not have a reliable internal support. You need to find it or create it. Need to take it for starting point yours current situation. Everything you have, including your level of health, finances, and satisfaction with your life. It is necessary to take into account as many aspects as possible. And decide what you live for. You can be a creator, or you can be a layman. It doesn't matter. The main thing is that you like your life and have joy in your soul when you meet every new day. You need to find support in life, even if you have nothing. This support can be your cherished dream, it can be a loved one or your increasing income, which gives you a new influx of inspiration to do what you love. Now let's think about why many people go astray from their chosen path and roll back? After all, they have already achieved some success, and it is likely that with proper persistence they would eventually achieve the desired result. But they retreated, deciding for themselves that this was either unrealistic or impossible for them to do personally. This is because they are not satisfied with the speed at which they are moving forward. All dreams and desires, goals are actually achieved much slower than we initially assume. In such a situation, it can be very difficult to force yourself to continue when you see scanty results of your actions or do not see them at all. Motivation and enthusiasm quickly fade, and willpower alone won't get you far. There are millions of temptations to give up everything or leave it as it is. The concept of success is very interesting. You achieve success whenever you make some progress. While you are growing, while your health, results in sports or financial well-being, even if it’s tiny, it means that you have achieved success. And oddly enough, the longer you stay true to your chosen path, the faster your results begin to increase. But as soon as you stop achieving even this meager amount, you doom yourself to failure. You become a failure. It seems to you that you won’t lose anything if you stop, because you haven’t really achieved anything. But that's not true. You will lose the opportunity to succeed, you will waste all your efforts and create a gaping hole in your soul from which the vibes of your failure will ooze.

It turns out that either a person is successful because he does not stop trying and works every day according to the plan. It doesn’t matter whether he succeeds in what he does or not, it doesn’t matter whether he makes progress or not. He is still successful because he is moving towards success, and sooner or later he will start to succeed. Either he is a loser, because every day he wastes brings him closer to the point of no return, after which it will be pointless to change anything.

So here it is peace of mind a person when he clearly knows where he started and what he has achieved. When he does not look at other, more successful comrades, but WORKS BY HIMSELF, FOR HIMSELF, FOR HIMSELF, AND FOR HIS OWN PLEASURE. You need to sit down and write down anywhere everything that you have at the moment and what you are going to develop. Time will pass and you will check to see if you are making progress. That's all you need. There is no need to compare yourself with others - this will only make things worse and undermine your self-esteem. You need to become self-sufficient and not look at anyone. Only such people deserve to become successful, and oddly enough, in the end they succeed. And in addition to this, they receive reliable inner rod And support at a difficult moment. You only need to start from their results. It is very important.

Every day people face stress, whether it comes from work, family or public transport. Because the modern world leaves its mark on society, a person quickly runs out of steam, trying to resolve all issues at the same time. If you do not slow down in time, there is a risk of developing prolonged depression. Let's look at current ways to find peace of mind and peace of mind.

Method number 1. Think less

1. There is a direct connection between how much a person thinks and the level of happiness he experiences. If you are constantly in thoughts, your head will literally boil.
2. It's especially bad for those who have unpleasant feature- beat yourself up. Constant negative thoughts and recognition of your own hopelessness kill all attempts to find peace of mind.
3. Learn to smile even if you look stupid. Cheerfully thank the store clerk or bus driver. Try to communicate affectionately with friends, while turning off your head.
4. If you overthink because you have too much free time, correct the situation. Load your day to capacity, ask additional task at work or school, do household errands.
5. Find a hobby that will occupy all your time. Sign up for a boxing class, take piano or drawing lessons, purchase a subscription to Gym or to the dance. When you get home, you should be off your feet.

Method number 2. Develop a sense of humor

1. Agree, it is much more interesting to communicate with people who see the positive in everything. Become a cheerful person, remove the “sour” face, do not scare away others. Learn to laugh at your own defeats, take them as a lesson for the future.
2. Choose your environment wisely, it affects you. Chat with interesting and cheerful people. Exclude individuals who are chronically depressed. Don't listen to those who complain about life/family/work.
3. You are the architect of your own happiness. Don’t be fooled by provocations, don’t listen to talk that nothing will work out. Don't tell people about grandiose plans, let them see the result after achieving what they want.
4. Look for joy in everything. You must emit light, only then will you be able to find harmony with the world around you. Be sure to listen to your heart and act wisely. Before making an important decision, weigh the pros and cons.

Method No. 3. Pay attention to the little things

1. It is known that little things add up to a global picture. Pay attention to small things that make you happy. It could be a bar of chocolate from a loved one, a bouquet of flowers from a colleague, or aromatic bath on herbs.
2. Many people are weather dependent by nature. Some people don’t like rain, others, on the contrary, seek consolation in it. Try to rejoice in the fallen autumn foliage, the chirping of birds, the first snow.
3. Perhaps you will see a beautiful sunset or sunrise that will make you smile. Capture the picture in your head, return to it in moments of despair or sadness. Of course, the problems have not gone away; they still need to be solved. However, you should not allow yourself to walk around upset all day and night.
4. Do not listen to the instructions of your family or colleagues: “You don’t think about problems, you’re still having fun!” They don't know what's going on in your head. When you eat a delicious cake, focus on the sensations of your receptors, and not on the grumbling of your wife/brother/friend.
5. Make it a habit to start your morning with a mug of freshly brewed coffee and a fun TV show. Listen funny jokes on the radio while driving to work. Don't let your colleagues or bosses ruin your day, take it easy. You can only find peace if you experience spiritual zen.

Method number 4. Don't play the victim

1. The recommendation is relevant for those people who see condemnation, criticism, and anger in everything. Did your spouse say that the soup was slightly under-salted? Don't yell at him, take criticism for granted. Answer calmly, don't lose your temper.
2. If you are accused of a case, do not try to defend yourself and “turn the tables.” Such actions are regarded as aggression, anger, and inability to perceive the opinions of others. Thank you for the advice, then do it your way. Don't try to prove your position.
3. Also important is the opinion of others, or rather the lack thereof. You must become independent, free from the actions and thoughts of outsiders. Say “No!” if it suits you. Don't let anyone teach you about life unless they have any experience in the field.

Method No. 5. Abstract yourself

1. Many people grab their heads when all the problems appear at one moment. Of course, difficulties come along: at work, in family and financially. On such days, absolutely any little thing can make you angry, be it a torn stocking or insufficiently strong coffee.
2. Learn to freeze the moment and rewind it. When trouble happens, sit down, abstract yourself, pour a mug of tea. Imagine that similar situation didn't happen to you. Smile, switch to other things (calling a friend, reading a book, watching TV, etc.).
3. This psychological trick will help you get minor problems out of your head. As a result, you will clear your mind of “garbage” and understand that the size of complexity is no larger than a grain of rice.
4. One more excellent option relaxation is considered hot bath and loud music. Such a contrast (the calmness of the bath and the carelessness of the composition) will not allow you to focus on pressing problems. Ultimately, you will emerge refreshed and with clear thoughts.

Method number 6. Know how to forgive

1. It’s not for nothing that they say that the ability to forgive is a feature strong people, the weak can be offended for years. However, not everyone knows that resentment and anger destroy a person from the inside, like a disease.
2. Even if your offender is excessively cruel, you need to forgive him. Otherwise, you will constantly think about how to make things worse for him. Of course, revenge has its place, but after that you have to let go of the situation.
3. Learn to forgive. As you know, every person has shortcomings. Don’t bully your family and loved one for minor mistakes, turn a blind eye to them. Be kinder, develop this quality every day.
4. To maintain harmony with yourself, it is also important to listen to your inner voice. In every situation he manifests himself, be careful. Don't do anything that goes against your principles.

Method No. 7. Perceive failures differently

1. All problems differ in their essence, the nature of their occurrence, consequences, etc. One was fired from prestigious job, the second is experiencing difficulties in personal life, the third was disappointed in himself and his family.
2. It is important to remember that problems do not last forever. Soon black line will be replaced by white, life will begin to improve. Learn to take failures as lessons that will make you stronger and wiser.
3. Agree, when a person does not make mistakes, his personal growth stops. Take a problem as an opportunity that life has given you. After all, as you know, all good things happen when you don’t expect them.
4. View complexity in both positive and negative ways. The first says that it pushed you forward to new victories. The second aspect is to test your willpower and how far you are willing to go.

Method No. 8. Play sports

1. Psychologists have repeatedly proven that there is a positive connection between physical activity and the psycho-emotional background of a person. Use your opportunities, start playing sports.
2. Sign up for a gym, create a program and start training. Visit a dance or martial arts school, go swimming, Pilates, or yoga.
3. If this is not possible, practice at home. Jump rope, spin a hoop, pump your legs and abs. Before bed, go for an hour's walk or fifteen-minute jog.

Experienced psychologists advise developing inner harmony and suppressing the anxiety that eats from the inside. Think less, develop a sense of humor, don’t pretend to be a victim. Abstract from problems, enjoy pleasant little things, learn to forgive.

Video: How to Find Peace of Mind

The true secret to achieving peace of mind is that it is determined not by external circumstances, but by your choices. Choosing a way to look at situations and a way of thinking.

1. live in the present.
You cannot return the past, and the future depends on what you think and do at the moment. So pay attention to the present, focus on doing everything you do, the best way, and just live. Don't let life pass you by because you live in the past or the future.
2. meditate.
Meditation teaches you mental and physical discipline, as well as emotional self-control. It's easy and enjoyable, and this is one of the most powerful self-development tools that you can use right now!

3. express gratitude.
Express gratitude for all the “Good” and all the “bad”, for all that you experience, learn and adopt. Express gratitude for everything that the future holds for you. Let yourself be enveloped in the warmth and light of gratitude.

4. let go of your usual way of looking at things, look at the world from a different angle. Your point of view is not “the Law”, but only one of many points of view. The way you view things may be causing you stress. Look at the world with an unrestricted view.

5. know that “this too shall pass.”
Change is a part of life. Be calm and patient - let everything happen naturally and organically. Develop the courage that allows you to focus on the results you want rather than the problem.

6. simplify your life.
Simplicity brings inner peace - thanks to the fact that you direct your energy correctly. Get rid of everything you don't need, including connections and friendships that don't bring you anything good. Focus on what's important to you. Don't overload yourself with too many things, tasks and information. Keep one or two goals that are most important to you.

7. smile.
A smile has the power to open doors, turn a “no” into a “yes” and instantly change the mood (both yours and those around you. Smile in the mirror. Smile at family members, co-workers, everyone who catches your eye. A smile radiates the energy of love - and What you send is what you receive. It is impossible to smile sincerely and at the same time feel anger, sadness, fear or envy. When you smile, you can only feel happiness and peace.

8. Bring the work you start to its logical end.
Complete the circle. Unfinished business (unforgiveness, unspoken words, unfinished projects and tasks) is a heavy burden on your consciousness, whether you feel it or not. Every unfinished task takes energy away from the present.

9. Be true to yourself.
Love yourself. Make your dreams come true and express yourself. Find your purpose and fulfill it.

10. don't worry.
How much time do you spend worrying about what "could happen"? And what actually happened (and ruined your life? Little, if not nothing at all... right? Focus on what you want, not what you don't want.

11. take care of your health.
Take care of your body: do physical exercise, play sports, eat right and get enough sleep. Increase your energy with daily exercise and monitor your well-being.

12. morning is wiser than evening.
Sometimes, when you are overwhelmed with problems, falling asleep is not possible. First of all, do your best to physically fix the problem. Only if nothing can be done, turn to an energy solution to the problem. Visualize the ideal state of things (in which the problem does not exist) until the problem disappears on its own or until a solution comes to you.

13. In your speech, adhere to the principles of Sufism.
This ancient tradition stipulates that you should only say something if: 1) it is true, 2) it is necessary, and 3 it is good words. Attention! Just in case anything you have to say doesn't meet these criteria, don't say it.

14. Use the power off button.
Avoid information and sensory overload. Turn off the TV, smartphone, tablet, laptop, computer, mp3 player (unless you are listening to audio recordings for meditation or relaxation. Learn to simply “Be” without necessarily “doing” anything).

15. don't do everything at the same time.
Do one thing and do it well. Take a holistic approach in everything and do your best.

16. start with the most difficult.
Don't put things off until later. A lot of mental and emotional energy is wasted due to fear of doing things we don't want to do - tiring, unpleasant, difficult or scary. Deal with them - only properly, in the best possible way. And then move on to simple matters.

17. maintain balance.
Promote success and inner peace by maintaining balance in your life.

18. Cross money off your list of priorities. Strive to be a person who is rich in the sense of relationships, not material goods.

19. If you drive more quietly, you will go further.
Enjoy this journey called Life. Everything will happen when the time comes. Pay attention to every moment of life and appreciate it. What's the hurry? Once you achieve your goal, new tasks and problems will certainly appear.

20. use your imagination. Building the life of your dreams begins in your imagination. This is where you take the canvas and paints and paint the life you want most!

In this bustle of life, we often simply lack peace. Someone is simply very impressionable and nervous all the time, someone is overcome by problems and difficulties, bad thoughts.

Stop, take a breath, look around, it's time to gain awareness in this race of life.

I dare to give you some tips on how to find peace in your soul, all of them are quite simple and easy to follow.

1. Give - receive!

If any difficulties have appeared in your life and it seems to you that the whole world is against you, do not cry and do not suffer. Find another person who needs help and do what you can to solve their problems.

2. Don’t demand and learn to forgive!

Don’t get angry, forget about all your complaints, try not to get involved in quarrels and disputes.

3. Don't get upset over trifles!

Life is largely determined internal state person. If his soul is dark and empty, then it will be sad, if it is good and clear, then it will be rosy and full of prospects.

4. Look at life differently!

Don't snap, don't get defensive, don't turn into modern "zombies" or "robots" who only think about how bad their life is. Remember that all your thoughts are material. Make only good wishes, and this will certainly affect your mood and your reality.

5. Don't make yourself a victim!

Finally, free yourself from the illusion that you are driven into a corner by some unfavorable circumstances or the aggression of others. Your life is in your hands!

6. Don't judge!

At least for a day or two, don’t criticize anyone.

7. Live in the moment!

Rejoice in what is happening to you right now. Are you sitting at the computer? Great! Would you like some tea? Wonderful! Pour and drink. Don't project your negative thoughts into the future.

8. Stop playing and pretending!

There is no need to deceive anyone. Cry when you feel like crying and laugh when you really feel funny. Finally, take off your mask and show yourself to others as the person you really are.

9. Do what you want, not others

Stop acting on someone else's orders, listen to yourself and understand what you really want.

10. Know and love yourself!

Communicate alone with yourself, look for the motives of your actions and desires. Don't judge or criticize yourself. After all, you are the person you are, and that’s wonderful.

11. Do exercises!

• Inhale, count to 4 and exhale smoothly.
• Write down your thoughts and 3 best life events on paper.
• Sit on the porch or on a bench and just relax, contemplate and look for positive and beautiful moments in the space around you.
• Imagine yourself floating above the ground in a transparent protective bubble.
• Talk to your inner self.
• Give your head a massage.

Even these simple exercises will help you take your mind off your problems, calm down and think positively.

12. Meditate!
Solitude and silence, contemplation of nature is one of the best ways to find peace of mind and harmony, use it.

13. Don’t let bad thoughts “come”!

Get rid of anything that might upset you. Use the principle of substitution. Do you have a bad thought? Urgently find something positive that will crowd out your bad thoughts. Fill the space around you with joy and positivity.

14. Listen to calm music!

It will help you relax and slow down your thoughts.

15. Look at the fire of candles or fireplace!

He gives you an inner smile and the energy of magical warmth; it is simply mesmerizing.

In addition to all of the above, you can listen to birdsong and the sounds of rain, smell fresh flowers, contemplate the starry sky and falling snow, relax, do yoga, take a bath with incense, share smiles and love.

Remember that the great Samurai always won thanks to their inner peace and the ability to see beauty in their surroundings. According to them, only those who are looking for it in panic and running around will not be able to find a way out of the labyrinth. Those who are internally calm will always see from above both the labyrinth itself and the exit from it.

I wish you happiness and peace of mind!

With love to you, In search of yourself.

Nowadays, people live very unsettled lives, which is due to various negative realities of a political, economic and social nature. Added to this is a powerful flow of negative information that falls on people from television screens, from Internet news sites and newspaper pages.

Modern medicine is often unable to relieve stress. She is not able to cope with mental and physical disorders, various diseases that are caused by disturbances in mental balance due to negative emotions, anxiety, restlessness, fear, despair, etc.

Such emotions have a destructive effect on the human body. cellular level, drain him vitality, lead to premature aging.

Insomnia and loss of strength, hypertension and diabetes, heart and stomach diseases, cancer - this is not a complete list of those serious ailments, the main cause of which can be stressful conditions in the body that arise as a result of such harmful emotions.

Plato once said: “The most big mistake doctors is that they try to treat a person’s body without trying to cure his soul; however, the soul and body are one and cannot be treated separately!”

Centuries, even millennia, have passed, but this saying of the great philosopher of antiquity remains true today. In modern living conditions, the problem of psychological support for people, protecting their psyche from negative emotions has become extremely relevant.

How to achieve inner harmony and peace of mind

1. Recognize your NOT perfection and the right to make mistakes. Excessive ambition and self-demandingness not only disturbs mental balance, but also forces a person to be in constant stress. Take mistakes you make as life lessons and an opportunity to gain valuable experience.
2. Live here and now. This will help get rid of imaginary fears associated with the future. Often a person worries about what might happen and forgets that it may NOT happen. Focus your attention on the present and solve problems as they arise.
3. Learn to say NO. Stop shifting other people's problems onto yourself, and your life will become much simpler and more harmonious.
4. Build internal boundaries. The loss of your peace of mind may be associated with worries about another person, or taking on his responsibilities. Don’t let others impose the rules of the game on you, and let’s clearly understand the boundaries of what is permitted in communicating with you.
5. Don't keep all your experiences to yourself. Great psychological technique To get rid of loss of calm is to say out loud what is bothering you. By putting your feelings into words, you will come to the conclusion that things are not as bad as you thought. Don't be alone with your experiences and problems. Share them with a loved one who will understand and help.
6. Give vent to your emotions regularly. Don't keep everything that has accumulated to yourself. Throw out the negativity and you will feel much better. Find out the 5 best ways to deal with stress and use them.
7. Learn to forgive and forget. Sometimes this is not as easy to do as it seems at first glance. If you are unable to cope with the offense on your own, seek help from a psychologist.
8. Focus on the end result, and perceive temporary difficulties as steps towards realizing your goal.

And no matter what happens to you, don’t take anything to heart. Few things in the world remain important for long.

Erich Maria Remarque "Arc de Triomphe" ---

If you get caught in the rain, you can learn a useful lesson from it. If it starts raining unexpectedly, you don't want to get wet, so you run down the street towards your house. But when you reach home, you notice that you are still wet. If you decide from the very beginning not to speed up your pace, you will get wet, but you will not fuss. The same should be done in other similar circumstances.

Yamamoto Tsunetomo - Hagakure. Samurai Book

Tomorrow will be what it should be

and nothing will happen that should not happen -

don't fuss.

If there is no peace within us, it is useless to look for it outside.

Unburdened with worries -
enjoys life.
He is not happy when he finds it,
when losing he is not sad, because he knows
that fate is not constant.
When we are not bound by things,
Serenity is fully experienced.
If the body does not rest from tension,
it wears out.
If the spirit is always in worries,
he fades.

Chuang Tzu ---

If you throw a stick to a dog, it will look at the stick. And if you throw a stick to a lion, he will, without looking up, look at the thrower. This is a formal phrase that was said during debates in ancient China, if the interlocutor began to cling to words and stopped seeing the main thing.

As I breathe in, I calm my body and mind.
As I exhale, I smile.
Being in the present moment, I know that this moment is amazing!

Allow yourself to breathe deeply and don’t force yourself into limits.

Strength belongs to those who believe in their own strength.

Develop the habit of monitoring your mental-emotional state through self-observation. It is good to regularly ask yourself: “Am I calm at this moment?” is a question that is useful to ask yourself regularly. You can also ask: “What is happening inside me at the moment?”

Eckhart Tolle

Freedom is freedom from worry. Once you understand that you cannot influence the results, ignore your desires and fears. Let them come and go. Don't feed them with interest and attention. In reality, things are done to you, not by you.

Nisargadatta Maharaj

The calmer and more balanced a person is, the more powerful his potential and the greater will be his success in good and worthy deeds. Equanimity of mind is one of the greatest treasures of wisdom.

1. Don’t interfere in other people’s problems

Many women create a lot of problems for themselves when they interfere in other people's affairs. At such moments, they are convinced that they are doing the right thing by trying to help and advise. They can often criticize and try to guide others on the right path. But such communication is a denial of individuality, that is, God. After all, He created each of us unique. It must be remembered that all people act as their divine essence tells them. Don't worry about others - love yourself and take care of yourself!

2. You need to be able to forget and forgive

The most effective way To achieve a woman's peace of mind is the ability to forget grievances and forgive them. Often women carry within themselves negative feelings towards people who once offended them. Constant dissatisfaction only fuels such grievances, which leads to repetition of people's bad attitudes. You need to believe in God's justice by allowing him to judge the actions of people who have hurt you. You shouldn't waste your life on trifles. Learn to forgive and look only forward!

3. Don't seek public recognition

There is no need to show your selfishness in everything, pursuing only personal gain. There is no one perfect in this world. Don't expect recognition from others. Better believe in yourself. Other people's recognition and encouragement do not last long. Always remember sincerity and morality when performing your duties. Everything else is the will of God.

4. When changing the world, start with yourself

Don't try to change it alone the world. No one has ever succeeded in doing this. Changes need to start with yourself, with self-knowledge and self-development. In this case, the unfriendly environment will become harmonious and pleasant for you.

5. What cannot be changed must be accepted

The best way to turn disadvantages into strengths is acceptance. Every day a woman faces irritation, inconvenience and negative circumstances that are beyond her control. You need to learn to accept such manifestations in your address. If God willed it this way, then this is how it should be. Divine logic is beyond our understanding. You need to believe in it and become stronger and more tolerant.

6. You need to practice meditation regularly

Meditations are the best way to free the mind from thoughts. This gives the highest state of peace of mind. Daily meditation for 30 minutes allows you to maintain calm throughout the rest of the day. This increases productivity and allows you to fully enjoy life.

The main troublemakers

1) Take a deep breath for one-two-three-four, hold your breath for the same period, then exhale just as smoothly.
2) Take a pen and write down your thoughts on paper.
3) Recognize that life is complicated.
4) Write down three of your most successful events in life.
5) Tell a friend or loved one what he or she means to you.
6) Sit on the porch and do nothing. Promise yourself to do this more often.
7) Give yourself permission to just be lazy for a while.
8) Look at the clouds for a few minutes.
9) Fly over your life in your imagination.
10) Unfocus your gaze and simply notice with your peripheral vision everything that is happening around you for a few minutes.
11) Give a few coins to charity.
12) Imagine that you are inside a transparent protective bubble that protects you.
13) Place your hand on your heart and feel how it beats. This is cool.
14) Promise yourself that no matter what you will save positive attitude until the end of the day.
15) Be grateful that you don't always get what you want.